What does ‘bossy’ mean?

I have called this blog ‘bossy girl’, so I wanted to explore exactly what this word ‘bossy’ actually means.

The official definition 

According to dictionary.com, he word ‘bossy’ is used to describe somebody who is “ordering people about, overly authoritative and domineering”.

It’s an adjective

That’s right, it’s a describing word, so it’s an adjective. This means that it sits alongside lots of other words, which have more positive connotations. Think confident, assertive and decisive.

Where does it come from?

The word apparently originated in America and was first used in the 1800’s. It’s possible that the word came about because a manager is sometimes referred to as somebody’s “boss”. 

Why don’t we call boys ‘bossy’?

As far as I can tell, nobody actually knows why boys aren’t referred to as bossy. Perhaps it’s because the person that first coined the term used it to describe a woman. But that is just speculation. I haven’t been able to find anything that definitely explains why.

Should we ban the word ‘bossy’?

Back in 2014, Sheryl Sandberg, who is now the COO of Facebook started a campaign to ban the word bossy. Sanderg claimed that calling girls ‘bossy’ could stop them from pursuing leadership roles. 

Just about everybody seemed to have an opinion on this. However, it seems that the campaign was a bit of a flash in the pan and nothing has really come of it. I would not ban ‘bossy’, instead, I think it should be embraced. Let’s teach our daughters to be bossy and proud.