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Have you been wanting to explore BDSM? Perhaps a film, a book, or a documentary has pricked your interest and you’d like to take it further. Continue reading to find out how it still possible to explore, even during a pandemic.
What is BDSM?
According to Wikipedia, BDSM is “a variety of often erotic practices or roleplaying involving bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, sadomasochism, and other related interpersonal dynamics.”
It’s a practice that became more mainstream when the Fifty Shades of Grey books and films were released. But it has been around for centuries and is certainly not a new fetish.
Typically, those that practice BDSM fall into one of two categories: either ‘submissive’ or ‘dominant’. As there is a power difference, it is essential that everybody that takes part gives full informed consent.
Be open minded
If you want to explore the BDSM world then it’s important to keep an open mind. Of course, you don’t have to do anything you’re uncomfortable with, but people are interested in different things and you need to respectful of their desires.
Stay safe
Your safety needs to be your number one priority. With this in mind, some people use a traffic light system to indicate how they’re feeling about something. Red means stop right now, amber means slow down and green means you’re happy for things to continue as they are.
If you’re going to explore this with a new partner, or you decide to search for a bdsm hookup, then make sure that you use protection and protect yourself from STIs.
Where can I find a partner?
If you’re currently single, or you’re dating, but you haven’t met anybody that you feel comfortable enough to explore this with, then you could look on bdsm dating sites.
Typically, submissive men have found it hard to find a mistress. But using a website should make this easier.
Who does it?
This sexual practice isn’t reserved to a certain kind of person with particular tastes. All types of people explore it. So as long as you’re over the age of consent, you should be able to find a willing partner to explore this with.
This is something you could also explore as a couple. You could search for a single person to add to your fun.
Communication
With BDSM, communication is key. So talk openly and explore your fantasies. That way, you can ensure that you and your perspective partner are interested in the same things.
Make sure you also discuss Covid rules and make sure that your exploring your fantasies within government guidelines!
Accessories
There are a range of things that you could purchase to help you to facilitate your fantasies. But if you’re new to it, then it may make sense to start small, with blindfolds and cuffs, or weight a little whip.
Enjoy and have fun
With BDSM and other sexual practices, it is important to enjoy it. So once you have found a partner to explore this with, relax and enjoy it.
